- We get a gut feeling before something bad is about to happen but we ignore it.
We feel air
around us getting change. But we think it is just ourselves being
paranoid. Instead of taking hold on it earlier, we let things grow
bad. We ignore our instincts because we don’t notice the change.
- We understand that we can’t do anything about certain things but still we try to fix everything.
We realize that we don’t have control about few things but still we try to take control because our ego doesn’t allow us to sit down and watch things getting worse. But sometimes things needs to get worse just to get better. We need to realize sometimes greatest thing you can do to fix things is doing nothing. There is a difference between activity and productivity.
- It is OK to fall weak sometimes.
You might have
been strong throughout your life, standing tall even in greatest
adversities. But there will be moments in life when you will fall
weak. You will speak and do things you know are wrong but still you
won’t be able to control yourself. You will feel helpless, you will
cry and you will see yourself falling into pieces. You will feel
guilty about yourself being weak and then you will try to stand
again. This cycle will repeat several times and will leave you
getting stronger every time.
- We always resist change, no matter how prepared we were.
It is natural,
it is human and understandable because we are blessed with a brain.
We don’t behave as per our instincts, we try to find answers. But
instead of trying to find answers how, when and why, first accept the
change and adapt accordingly. Analysis part should come later.
- It is possible to give our 100% and still lose.
Life is not
fair as we wish it should be. A farmer may plough the fields, sow the
seeds and water them at right times. But untimely rains or disasters
can ruin everything anytime. Sometimes bad things just happens and it
is not our fault. We may feel restless and turbulent at that time.
But we need to realize, shit happens.
- We find happiness when we start giving it to others.
Several books
and articles talk about it. I don’t feel a need to explain it.
- Greatest hurdle in moving on is our own lack of desire for it.
We never move
on unless until we decides to. We keep ourselves chained with false
hopes. As soon as we realize that things have changed, we should
start moving on. Holding onto past and keeping false hope just
increase sufferings and delay healing. The day we decide that we want
to move on, journey is half done.
Dr Stephen
Spencer writes in ‘Who Moved My Cheese’:
“Greatest
inhibitor to change lies within yourself, nothing gets better until
you change.”
- Hope for a better future but don’t expect things to get better too soon.
Hoping and
dreaming about the better future gives us strength to move on. But
better future doesn’t mean that it will be like what we may want it
to be. We need to be open for changes. We never know it may bring
something better than we wanted.
- We should not try to supress our feelings but we should control expressing them.
Cry if you want
to. Shout if that makes you feel better. Let your anger come out. But
this doesn’t mean you start shouting and cursing somebody on
his/her face. Share how you feel. If you find difficulty in sharing
then write down those feelings. Sometimes we should let tears flow,
its feels really good after crying. But remember don’t let your
words and action hurt others.
- There is positive aspect of every situation. Sometimes we might just have to dig deeper to find it.
There is always an opportunity to learn, an opportunity to grow and opportunity to push your own limits in adverse situation. There is always a blessing in disguise. When you will come out of your bad time, you will proud of yourself that you survived one of the worst phase of life. Though we may not have acted always so gracefully but best part is we didn’t give up on surviving.
Just believe,
everything happens for a good reason.
